Two years? What the F*ck?

Another two years zoomed by. How the hell did that happen?

At least I've been busy. Many things have changed since last I blogged. I took weaving and pen-making out of my repertoire of hobbies that I wish I had time to devote to, and now I'm melting glass in my garage. Right now. At this very moment, I have a piece annealing in the kiln.

Garage? Yes, it is a different garage from the garage I whined about before, now it is a huge, non-leaky-roofed attached garage, with enough space that, if it were properly organized, could fit a car, my hobbies, and a flotilla of lawn equipment. As it is now, dis-organized, it bare barely fits my workspace. I'm working on it!

Attached garage? Oh yeah - the Nurse and I bought a new (as in , freshly built) house , in the woods, in Egg Harbor Township, less than two miles from Grandma's. Brother Jon and his wife Mary Ann are renting the Atlantic City house, and fixing it up much more nicely than the Nurse and I had the patience or money for. We did consider doing a knock-down / rebuild, but decided that moving was a more affordable, and more sensible option. It's a win-win -- Jon gets a reasonable rent-rate, and we get this fabulous property and all the space I can waste!

The Nurse and I got married, in a quiet ceremony in Walpole, Mass., September 18, 2009. If I can figure out how, I can even one day post some still or motion caps from the ceremony. And... drum roll, please... I quit smoking! I finished my last duty-free pack (from our pre-nuptial Bermuda cruise) on September 25, 2009, and I have not smoked a cigarette since. Two months later, I weaned off the chantix. I still miss them occasionally, in moments of boredom... but I think about how tough the first 24 hours of quitting were, and it keeps me from going back.

Welcome to February

Geez, another month and a half have zoomed by. At this rate, I'll be in my mid-fifties before the end of the week!

Since last I blogged, I have spent inordinate amounts of money on various junk and non-junk, the world around me has frozen and thawed several times (currently frozen), and a new president has taken office.

I've got a new computer, but I haven't set it up yet. I'm a good American, remember, it's all about the acquisition, not the outcome. It's a very fancy-schmatzy system, an HP Pavillion Elite, with what I hope will be a very speedy AMD quad processor, 6 Gigs of RAM, and a bundled 24 inch widescreen. Already I have begun whoring it up with aftermarket stuff - another 2 Gigs of memory to bring it to its max of 8; a new TV card (the one from the computer it's replacing doesn't fit, and I can not live without tivoing The Closer and Judge Judy). I've been looking for just the right drive to fill its available expansion bay, but I think I'm going to wait until the prices of Blu-ray writers drops another 50%.

Once I move into the new setup, Old unReliable will be passed down to the Nurse, and the Nurse's system will get handed down to Mom. Old unReliable used to be a great computer, two years ago when it was shiny and new. Now it has that lived-in look, and is starting to feel slow. For the Nurse's purposes, it will be a big step up from his Compaq, and once I have restored it to its pristine better-than-new state with additional RAM and storage, it should be relatively speedy again - just not as speedy as mine. Yes, this is a race I refuse to lose!

The big winner here is Mom - the Nurse's Compaq is a decent machine, and will get e-mail, play Slingo, and surf the net with the best of them. She's been stuck with my laptop, and it's very frustrating for me when I have to use it, so it must be doubly so for her. She simply can not deal with the integrated crowded keyboard and touchpad, so using an external keyboard and mouse forces her to be at least a yard away from the screen.

The big moves should happen this weekend - so if I never blog again, just tell yourselves that it didn't go well.

Winners never quit, quitters never win

Like most good Americans, I take several drugs, prescribed or recommended by my doctor. Prescribed are: two beta-blockers, a statin, a cholesterol absorption blocker, two anti-depressants, and a smoking cessation drug, Chantix. While each of these drugs has its idiosyncrasies, the best of these is Chantix.

I've been taking Chantix for almost 8 months now. From Pfizer, the miracle workers who brought us Viagra, Chantix is packaged in two different cardboard folders: the "starter pack" that has a 7-day blister pack of increasing dosages for the first week, and three 7-day blister packs of full-strength, and "continuation packs," which contains four 7-day blister packs of the full-strength product. Notice how cleverly they have circumvented my prescription plan's one-month-supply prices. Out of any 48 consecutive months, only 3 of them have only 28 days. But I'm not writing this to quibble about the rip-off.

About a week after beginning my Chantix regimen, I discovered that I cared less and less about smoking. It no longer particularly bothered me if I went several hours without a cigarette. At work, even under stress, if I thought "now is a great time to run out for a smoke!" and didn't actually get up and do it right then, an hour or two might pass before the idea would occur to me again. Down to about half a pack a day from two-and-a-half packs a day.

Also, about a week after beginning my Chantix regimen, I discovered that I could fly. It was in a dream, of course, but it was exceedingly vivid - lavishly colored, intricately detailed, beautifully choreographed. My exhilaration was gradually replaced by dismay, as I awoke to dreary reality. For the next several months, my dreams were impossibly lovely. Even a few nightmares were made bearable by their sheer beauty. Not all of the dreams were flying dreams, although many were; there were the usual money/sex/wish-fulfillments, too, but all made gloriously intense. I napped a lot in those days, and woke remembering all of the wonderments. If this had gone on much longer, I would have done my best to turn into a fairy-tale princess and slept my life away.

Finally, though, these dreams became less frequent and substantial. Reality began re-asserting itself, proving to be better than dreams on a few occasions. But still, every once in a while, I get a real humdinger of a dream - a technicolor extravaganza of epic proportions, leaving my waking self actually jealous of my sleeping self.

Chantix's brochures list "sleep problems (trouble sleeping, or vivid, unusual, or strange dreams)" among possible side effects. I certainly don't consider what has happened to me to be a problem. Instead, it is the reason that I'm still taking Chantix, and still smoking about half a pack a day. Gotta keep on dreamin'!

The Case of the Vanishing Vodka

I told the Nurse this morning that I had noticed that every clear liquor bottle in the house seems to be empty. The special Stolichnaya Vanilla vodka I got in duty-free because I wanted to see what kind of wonderful black russian I could make with it was empty, standing behind my two (unopened) bottles of Kahlua as if nothing had happened. It certainly didn't evaporate, because I had never had the top off of it. Other bottles, too, like the little pepper vodka and lemon vodka souvenier bottles that my developer, Lilya, had given me from her last trip to visit her sister in Kiev, were standing, empty, feigning unopenedness on the kitchen windowsill. I didn't even bother looking in the cabinet under the sink, which should have almost full bottles of various alcoholic beverages that rarely get used, NEVER go bad, and should be there on the once-every-few-years occasion that I need or want them. He tried to laugh it off, something like "Well, I made a deal with myself to not BUY any more liquor," but he really was ashamed. Good. If we absolutely have to, we can become the type of home where liquor simply is not allowed through the door, but why should my chocolate mousse (triple sec or grand marnier), turkey tetrazini (extra dry sherry), or certain cookies and cakes (rum, whiskey, whatever) suffer? But really, who the heck am I kidding. If I REALLY expect him to stop, we DO need to become that kind of home where liquor simply is not allowed through the door. The deepest truth is that I don't expect him to stop, so why change? Maybe I'm just not ready to put that particular foot down. Or afraid to... and so it goes.

Gym Class - A little stroll down Memory Lane

My family moved from Wisconsin to South Jersey over Christmas break in 1973. From that time on, through the rest of my public school internment, I refused to get "dressed" for gym. I would have played their stupid games, allowed myself to be pelted with dodgeballs, if I could have done so in jeans and a baggy t-shirt -- it wasn't about my lack of physical prowess. It was about the locker-room. I had already learned all there was to know about how middle-school-aged boys could find a flaw in someone and peck at it until it bled copiously, like chickens in a barnyard. I already knew I was a bit chunky, from my baby-fat boy-tits to my girlish thighs. Clothing provided a kind of protective camouflage which the glare of florescent locker-room lighting would not. I truly don't remember if I had been uncomfortable dressing for gym in Wisconsin, but I had done it. In Wisconsin, though, gym had been all calisthenics and track; in New Jersey gym was all about team sports that I had never played before -- touch football, soccer, and softball. The Jersey kids were tougher, aggressive in protecting their team structures from outsiders. Because health class (sex-ed) and gym shared a line item on my report card, for a couple of years I could squeak by on the balancing power of my health class grades, but I finally failed gym in my sophomore year in high school, forcing me to have two gym periods as a junior. I used the yellow pages, scraped together $35, and made a doctor's appointment. Dr. Sugar's examination was thorough, and there was nothing physically wrong. When I told him that I required a note excusing me from gym class, he refused. I told him that that was the reason I had come, that I was immovable, and would neither pay nor leave until I had accomplished my goal, and he reluctantly relented, writing a note that let me sail through the next two years of high school without worries: "Please excuse Richard from gym class, as he has a mental block against it." Instead of gym, I had extra study halls my junior and senior years. Several years later, I read in the newspaper that Dr. Sugar had been arrested for prescribing pain killers and other fun drugs to patients that didn't actually need them, and I thought it was strange that he had made me sweat for a simple gym excuse.

Mea Culpa, Mea Culpa, Mamma Mea Culpa

I know, it's been so damn long since I've blogged. I didn't set out to be a major disappointment to myself, or to you, my faithful readers, but it seems life keeps intruding on my time. I have spent some of my time wisely, though, so I may have learned a little bit that will eventually make this blog better.

Since last I typed:
1) I bought a fancy-schmantzy expensive Woodworking CNC gizmo, the CarveWright(tm). Off to a very bad start.

2) I started taking some art-glass classes, with varying degrees of success.

3) My Grandmother and Mother have both taken long vacations.

4) I've embarked on a dental-health plan that will culminate in a beautiful smile (I hope,) and will encourage me to take better care of myself overall.

All of this, and much more. Should prove to be occasionally interesting blog-fodder. Let's see what happens...

1.5TB, and I've got nothing to wear

For a short while, about two years ago, I was dreaming in stereo. Vivid, colorful dreams, with great soundtracks. I'd wake up, disappointedly realizing that I was back to the drab, and I'd write down what I could remember of the songs from the dreams. Two of these songs I was able to flesh out to the point where they seemed to be ready to be recorded. Don't worry, I am well aware of my limitations! I can't read or write music, and I can't carry a tune. I've listened enough to music, though, to have some very limited understanding of song structure, and what makes two or more notes sound good together, or not. I had this fantasy that I'd somehow manage to write up the tunes for them, using some kind of tonal representation that I'd be able to convey to someone who actually could write music, and my name would wind up in tiny print parenthesized on the label of a platinum single, or a Scissor Sisters album.

Like most fantasies, this one was eroded by reality into a couple of mildewed text files burried on the hard drive.

Also from dreams, I'd sometimes wake up with wonderful story ideas -- fully formed outlines for the arc of a great novel, or an article worthy of publication in the finest journals of our day. These ideas contained well-worded nuggets of universal truths that would illuminate and astound my growing legion of readers, my brilliance changing hearts and minds as I'd lead them into the utopian paradise formed from the gossamer of my world-view.

These, also, are somewhere burried on the hard drive. I can't even find the files. I need a better system.